Many PhD students decide to abandon their social life at least at some points of their program. For me it was the time before my prelims. I didn't go out almost two months. The second period was during dissertation stage. I would probably go out no more than once every month. I always felt - how can I go out and have fun when I have prelims/dissertation proposal/dissertation defense coming up soon?
Now that I look back I think this was the most serious mistake I made as a PhD student. PhD program is a marathon. For most people the marathon lasts more than 4 years. If you deprive yourself of social life at any point, you may be more productive for a week or two. But this will hurt your motivation and emotional health in the long run. Here's why. First, you have to take your mind off your work regularly. This is the most obvious reason for not isolating oneself for more than a week. Secondly, if you don't go out for too long, you may lose your relationships with friends. And then when you are ready to go out, there will be no one to go out with. Everyone would move on with their lives and you will be on your own. Not only this will deprive you of fun, it will also deliver a serious psychological blow. You will start thinking "I've lost everything because of the program: time, money, friends!".
So don't make this mistake. By the way, I've known quite a few people who survived through their programs in spite of everything being against them simply by getting drunk like a pig every week. Although you have to be careful with this, as you well know.
Are you thinking about applying to a PhD program? Are you already a doctoral student? PhD is a huge investment of time and money. So make sure you spend 15 minutes of your time reading this blog devoted to PhD program success and survival tips. I'm confident that these tips can save up to 10 years of your life, up to $1,000,000 of your money, and, most importantly, your physical and emotional health.
Friday, February 26, 2010
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Hi, this is quite useful. I love economics and study but the main reason why I´m not sure to apply to a Phd is that i may loose my social life completely or I will get a new one full of geeks only. Is this true or a mith? How can i obtain more information about the topic?
ReplyDeleteYes it is true.
ReplyDelete1. You will be surrounded by geeks, and not the funny kind you find on Big Bang Theory.
2. You will be surrounded by foreign students, mostly Chinese who speak broken English and have their own culture.
I am a science Ph.D, overall I find economic Ph.D and humanities Ph.Ds much more tolerable and social than science kids.
guys, this is SO true ... it's like i wrote these things...
ReplyDeleteGo out! I'm always telling my PhD fellows the same thing!! But in my case I think its the other way around! I go out way too much (didn't have much fun on my BA so I suppose I was kinda compensating??) and I don't want to spend all day stuck in the office...yet my supervisor still says I'm one of her best students...(probably not for long if I keep on this way)
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